by: Libby Weicker
Who likes every part of his or her body? The answer is no one. Literally no one looks in the mirror and says only positive things to himself or herself. Why is this? Why are we all constantly displeased with our appearances? I think it is because we don’t know and believe Truth. The Truth is that God crafted us each intricately and purposefully. Every part of you is there for a reason. Each part of your personality, body, and soul is there for a purpose. The problem is that we live in a world that constantly preaches lies to us about how we should look. Girls must be fit and thin, but also curvy enough. We must look like we just got back from the beach with a sun kissed glow about our skin. Guys must be built athletically and tall enough. We are told that the only way to be beautiful and attractive is to attain all of these beauty standards effortlessly, but this is simply not true.
I was talking about writing this column with my cousin, Braden, last night at Thanksgiving dinner, and we agreed that this is a very appropriate time for me to be writing about this, considering I ate until I literally could not put another piece of food in my mouth, which won’t render a body that society is pleased with. As my mom was serving her incredible pecan pie for dessert, she mentioned that it did not meet her standards of beauty in its presentation. The pie crust was coming off a bit, and with each slice, more of the pecans would fall out. I said that it didn’t matter because we were still going to eat it, and Braden said that shapes don’t matter. I immediately realized that this situation is how we should think about our bodies. We might be a little dissatisfied with the way they look because they don’t measure up to our standards, but in the end shapes don’t really matter, and it’s what is on the inside that truly matters. In the case of the pecan pie, the outside was irrelevant to the incredibly tasty inside. As long as we focus on who we are, instead of how we look, we will be on the right path. In the end, the Truth is that each of us was individually crafted in our mothers’ wombs for greatness and to fulfill our purpose on Earth. We so easily get sidetracked by society’s criteria, but the Truth is that we are who we are for a reason, and we should be proud of ourselves, including our bodies.
Now, I know this is extremely hard advice to follow. In the short run, I would recommend each time you look in the mirror to give yourself three compliments for each negative thought you have about yourself. Remember that you are so much harder on yourself than anyone else is, so take it easy on yourself. Don’t tell yourself anything about your body that you wouldn’t tell your best friend about his or hers. I hope that part of this resonates with you, and that I’ve helped!