by: Libby Weicker
This is a question everyone is going to have a different answer to based on their personal experiences. Based on my life experience, I do believe that boys and girls can just be friends. I grew up with my dad being a baseball and football coach and an older brother who always was hanging out with his friends. So, naturally, I was always around guys. I spent every summer traveling the southeast going to baseball tournaments, and spending 12+ hour days with sweaty guys. Having guys as friends was a huge part of my childhood. I remember many days playing catch and having races with the guys on my dad’s and brother’s teams. It was normal. That was my life.
Now, I fully understand that this isn’t everyone’s experience. I was more comfortable around guys than girls because that was what I was used to. Without growing up like I did, I might have a different opinion now. If you know me, you definitely know that my best friend of nine years is a girl, but I also have multiple really close guy friends that I’ve never been attracted to or wanted anything more than friendship with. I can’t imagine that this is just a me thing. I don’t know your specific situation, but I’m assuming based on your question that you are both heterosexuals, meaning one likes guys and the other likes girls. I think that friendship is a wonderful possibility if neither of you find the other attractive or want anything more than a friendship with that person. Obviously, if you are friends then you will be compatible in certain ways, but that does not have to mean more than friendship. Boundaries are a key part of friendships regardless of the genders or preferences involved.
There are amazing benefits to having strong friendships with people of the opposite sex. For example, you will have different perspectives of issues, and it provides an opportunity for fascinating conversations. The downside is that people will probably assume that y’all are together, but as long as no one is getting hurt by the situation, try not to let that bother you. People will always talk. The sooner we all learn not to care, the more carefree our lives will get. What it really comes down to is the fact that we all deserve a friend, regardless of their sex. Friends make life more doable. I believe that anyone who wants to be friends can be. As long as positivity is emanating from the friendship, it’s one worth keeping.